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Rob Delaneylost his 2½-year-oldson Henry to cancerin January 2018 — and when he and his wifewelcomed their fourth childmonths later, Delaney says he feared he’d be unable to bond with the new bundle of joy amid his grief.
“I knew that I would ‘love’ him,” he said. “But I didn’t know if Iwould like him or bond with him’cause I didn’t know if I would be too afraid to.”
The comedian said the fear has since subsided, but opined about how “totally insane” it was to have a child after losing another, especially for his wife Leah.
“How do you go to yourown child’s funeral when you’re pregnant?” he told the outlet. “I would like to carve a large bronze monument in the center of town for her not going on a killing spree or picking up police cars and throwing them through windows.”
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Delaney is notoriously private about his personal life, but has been public in grieving Henry as a means ofhelping other parents going throughsimilar things de-stigmatize their own grief.
He announced the toddler’s death in February 2018, two years after Henry was diagnosed with brain cancer.
“He’s absolutely still my son, and he commands a big percentage of my attention each day,” Delaney toldVultureof Henry. “So I just try not to resist that or hate it or fear it. He’s my son. I loved him when he was alive. I stilllove him and talk to him and think about himevery day.”
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“Having another child in no way, shape or form eases the grief of Henry dying. But also having Henry dying doesn’t make our new son any less magical,” he said. “I want to gobble him up and he deserves our full attention and love, and he grew in the same womb as Henry.”
The star alsowrote an emotional essayin September chronicling the days before and after Henry’s diagnosis, as well as the impact his death has had on his family.
“The reasonI’m putting this out there now isthat the intended audience for this book was to be my fellow parents of very sick children. They were always so tired and sad, like ghosts, walking the halls of the hospitals, and I wanted them to know someone understood and cared,” he wrote.
source: people.com
